M.O.B.A. Mentality

When a relationship starts to feel strained, whether it’s a partner, friend, coworker, or even family, something subtle but powerful tends to happen. We start looking for backup. Not solutions. Not clarity. Not growth. Backup. We vent. We share our side. We tell the story in a way that makes sense to us… and then we seek out people who will nod, agree, and say the words that feel like relief: “You’re right.” “I would feel the same way.” “They’re the problem.” "You deserve better." "They are...

It has been a whirlwind the last 2 months. (Well in fairness, it has been a whirlwind for the last year and a half but we will save that for another day, LOL) We have just celebrated our two month surgiversary from getting the arms done and my god, what a difference it has made in so many ways! I no longer need to wear the compression garment all day long and that has been the biggest sigh of relief. In fairness, for the most part over this time, I didn't mind it fully because it was an...

T-minus 37 Days... 11 years ago, when I had bariatric surgery, I never considered plastics at any time. TBH, I didn't think the surgery was going to work for me and lose the weight, let alone have any excess skin to remove. I remember asking the bariatric surgeon about loose skin and his response was "Well then that would be a good problem because it meant that it worked." And that was that. He was right. Why would I care about lose skin if it meant that I was finally healthy and not on...